Listening. Something we think we’re always good at. Until, we’re asked to repeat what someone said or to form an appropriate response.
We often mix up the terms hearing and listening. More often than not, we end up hearing what people are saying, rather than listening. The sounds are coming in, but they are not sinking in.
Our goal needs to be that we’re actively listening to everyone we speak with. It’s tough — we’ve got our own life with our own thoughts and issues. But really listening to someone is significant. You can understand the true meaning of what is being said. You can learn something new about them and even yourself.
What’s a common habit for us to hear and not listen? Forming our response while others are still speaking. This means we’re only listening to a portion, but tune out the rest while we’re preparing our response. We can’t actively be listening to someone if we’re thinking about our response the whole time. We need to remember to be present. To take in the meaning of what’s being said and to delay our response so that we’re able to pick up on what’s not verbally being said.
Show your loved ones you care, by listening. We love when we’re truly listened to. It makes us feel all gushy inside. So spread the gush. Get out there and get into some deep conversations. Who knows what you might learn.
Be in the moment. Be intentional. Be mindful. Listen.
Author - mEET jESSIE parmenter
Jessie is a Certified Home Stager. The right side of her brain has taken over her mind allowing the creative juices to constantly be flowing — and we love her for it. Luckily for us, her previous work in hospitality and events have landed her at Creating Home San Diego. In her free time she enjoys surfing, eating (everything), and visiting friends. Email Jessie.